It seems violence is everywhere. We may not be able to stop it or prevent it in the outside world, but we certainly can transform it in ourselves.
Two Kinds of Intelligence
There are two kinds of intelligence:
one acquired, as a child in school memorizes facts and concepts
from books and from what the teacher says,
collecting information from the traditional sciences
as well as from the new sciences.
With such intelligence you rise in the world.
You get ranked ahead or behind others
in regard to your competence in retaining
information. You stroll with this intelligence
in and out of fields of knowledge, getting always more
marks on your preserving tablets.
There is another kind of tablet, one
already completed and preserved inside you.
A spring overflowing its springbox. A freshness
in the center of the chest. This other intelligence
does not turn yellow or stagnate. It’s fluid,
and it doesn’t move from outside to inside
through conduits of plumbing-learning.
This second knowing is a fountainhead
from within you, moving out.
–Rumi (translated by Coleman Barks)
If we look at violence, even verbal violence, as a result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and therefore they are to blame, we end up as powerless persons at the end of the equation cause-effect, asking for punishment, calling for blame. That only increases the likelihood of feeling desperate, angry or sad, it increases violence.
If, on the contrary we look at our anger as a wake-up call, that tells us about a need that is not being fulfilled, the equation changes. If we take responsibility for our own feelings and needs and decide to satisfy them in a way that is healthy for us and for others we become “cause” and become change makers of relationships, with ourselves and others. Rumi’s second type of intelligence considers the possitive intrinsical value of each of us.
Marshall Rosenberg created a methodology to communicate effectively with each other, Non Violent Communication.
“Through the practice of NVC, we can learn
to clarify what we are observing without judgement
what emotions we are feeling,
what values we want to live by,
and what we want to ask of ourselves and others” M. Rosenberg
When we understand and consider our own needs and those of others in a respectful way, we create a shared basis for more satisfying relationships, a deeper connection with others and ourselves.
If we learn and train to communicate in a compassionate way, we will no longer need to use the language of blame, control or judgment. We can experience the deep pleasure of contributing to each others’ well being.
We offer a WORKSHOP ON POWERFUL AND SATISFYING COMMUNICATION
that invites to listen and to talk.
Feelings and Needs
Manifesting our heart´s truth: Heart Coherence and Practice
This workshop will help you:
- Free yourself from the negative effects of cultural conditioning regarding communication
- Develop relationships based on empathetically listening and honestly expressing
- Create an inner refuge, where to find calmness in three simple steps
- Regain your inner power and wisdom in relationships
- Resolve conflicts peacefully.
If you are interested please contact us.